They’re humans like you or me. They just happen to be a gifted singer or musician, as well. I sporadically get a chance to meet someone in the biz who you may recognize and, I have to tell you, it’s a 50/50 chance that they’re going to be nice to me.
I recently met a terrific guitar player (who shall remain anonymous because I don’t want to give him a bad rap out of respect) who was so deliberately shut off from the other people around him, that he deliberately didn’t make eye contact with anybody. Now, who knows why, but it was such a disappointment. I got such a negative reception and vibe from this cat, that I didn’t push any sort of the conversation I was hoping to have with him.
After thinking about this encounter for a couple of days, I realized that he’s only human. Who knows what was going on in his world other than the songs he sings. And that’s his job. He turns on the charm on stage most nights of the year. He’s not expected to turn on the charm whenever he’s going about his business in public, but still…
I’m just a minor celeb in this small community, but when I’m approached I tend to be nice to the person who recognizes me. It’s nice to be appreciated and it’s nice to appreciate back. Hopefully, the person who presses my flesh walks away with a favorable impression.
On the other side of the coin, I once got to meet George Thorogood backstage before a show and he couldn’t be any nicer. I’ve always admired him, his band and career, but I was never a huge fan – well, since he was so nice, I now like him even more.